Dear Friends,

            Last week, as I sat among a hundred plus clergy at the Michigan Area School for Pastoral Ministry, I was struck by the dedication and commitment of these faithful, humble servants of Jesus Christ who have responded to God's call to professional ministry.  I then began to imagine these clergy as children and youth.  What kinds of congregations nurtured and encouraged them to claim Jesus as their Savior and walk in Christian discipleship?  These churches were large and small; rural, suburban, and urban; African-American, Hispanic-Latino, Korean, Vietnamese, and white.   Some of the churches may not even exist anymore.  Yet each one played a crucial role in a future pastor's call.

            Earlier this year I was asked to write an introduction to a new book, A Whisper in the Ear, which celebrates the history of my home church, Zion Mennonite Church in Souderton, Pennsylvania.  Until I read a draft of the book, I was not fully aware of the extent to which my story is inextricably linked with Zion's story. 

            How does a church actually shape an individual's call?  I've been asked to share my call to ministry numerous times over the years, and I always respond this way, "I was called to ministry as a child because of the example of my parents and the influence of Zion Mennonite Church.  I never wanted to do anything else but work in the church.  Because women were not allowed to be pastors when I was growing up, I gravitated toward church music instead.  While pursuing graduate studies at the Yale Institute of Sacred Music, I lived at Yale Divinity School and observed other women preparing to be pastors.  It was then that God's whisper in my ear turned into a shout, 'I am calling you to be a pastor, too!'  Because of God's grace and the support of Zion Mennonite Church, I was ordained in 1982 and have never looked back."

            As I read A Whisper in the Ear, I realized that the vision, mission, and values that formed Zion Mennonite Church when it was chartered in 1893 have also formed me spiritually. 

1.         From Zion I learned how to be a creative and risk-taking spiritual leader.

            Many of the pastors at Zion Mennonite Church were courageous and imaginative change agents.  That's because Zion was formed as a result of tension between progressive and traditionalist Mennonites in the 19th century, which produced the Oberholtzer schism and, consequently, the Eastern District Conference.  This new small town congregation cast a vision of a church which gave itself away in mission and service to an ever-changing world.  As a spiritual leader, I, too, seek to effect transformation by building on the strong foundation of the past, claiming the challenge of the present, and working toward a future where God's kingdom comes in all its fullness.

2.         From Zion I learned the importance of education, mission, discipleship, and social action, which went hand in hand from the earliest years of the congregation.

            A few months before Zion was chartered, congregational leaders invited the Methodist Evangelical Sunday School of Souderton to locate in their new meetinghouse.  How amazing that even when relationships between "Old" and "New" Mennonites were strained, Zion was willing to embrace another denomination (which is now my beloved United Methodist Church!) because of their belief that church growth could best take place through the Sunday school.     

            Since Romans 12:2 ("do not be conformed to this world") is a foundational scripture for Mennonites, Zion continually challenged its members to struggle with what it means to live in the world, witness to the world, yet remain countercultural.  My parents, Gerry and Gwen Hartzel, were part of the original "Couples Class," which was formed in 1951 for the purpose of "becoming more intimately acquainted with the Bible and its message for today."

            Although I was just a young girl, I still remember Rev. Alvin Beachy's sermons about the Vietnam War and assumed that all Mennonites shared his pacifist views.  Only later did I understand the magnitude of the soul searching that went on during the World Wars, the Korean War, and the Vietnam War, as Mennonites did not always agree about how to live out their historic resistance to war.  I also remember how prophetic and courageous the leadership at Zion was in addressing pacifism, civil rights, and other social issues. 

            Coming home for Christmas after my first semester at Yale, I remember sitting in Zion's parsonage and talking with Alma Mast, wife of Rev. Russell Mast.  When I shared with her my developing call to pastoral ministry, she replied, "Laurie, you know that women can't be ministers in the General Conference Mennonite Church.  Of course, if all women who wanted to be pastors were like you, I'd be very supportive of the idea."  I am in ministry today only because 5 years later, in 1982, Rev. Frank Keller ordained me at Zion despite opposition from the rest of the Eastern District Conference.  Because of the example and witness of the faithful at Zion, discipleship - each one of us naming, claiming, and living out our faith - lies at the heart of my ministry.

3.         From Zion I learned about servanthood.

            From putting my quarter in the offering envelope every week, to participating in paper drives, to working with Mennonite Disaster Service in Wilkesbarre after Hurricane Agnes in 1972, to serving as a delegate to the triennial session of the General Conference Mennonite Church in 1977, I learned that being a Christian is much more than believing in Jesus.  Just as Zion has been described in the book as "a church that gets things done," so my ministry has revolved around bearing fruit and caring for the very least of God's children around the world in the name of Jesus Christ.

4.         From Zion I learned the ripple effect of encouragement. 

            Had it not been for the encouragement of countless saints at Zion, my life would have been very different.  I was given the opportunity to grow in my faith, learn the Bible, sing in many different choirs, play one of the most unique pipe organs in the country, take a trip to Germany with the senior high youth group, travel with a group from church to Washington D.C. in 1969 for a peace march, and grow in grace, hope, and love.  I was nurtured and supported every step of the way.  What a gift!

            The most powerful moment in my youth was my believer's baptism on Pentecost Sunday May 15, 1970, in front of the Holy Spirit window, set aflame by the bright morning sun.  When Rev. Mast laid his hands on my head, I felt the Holy Spirit whisper in my ear and fill me with a passion and fire for ministry that has never abated.  Today, as a United Methodist pastor, I carry my Mennonite roots with me wherever I go.  I have no doubt that Menno Simons and John Wesley would have gotten along famously! 

What about you? 

• How has your story been shaped by the saints in the churches where you grew up?    
• How do you continue to be shaped by God's servants who are part of your faith community today?
• How can you shape and influence the lives of others, especially children and youth, whose stories are still being written?
• When was the last time you said to a child, youth or adult, "I think you have wonderful gifts for ministry.  Have you ever thought about becoming a pastor?"  Who will be the next son or daughter of your local church who is called into professional ministry?
• When was the last time you heard God whisper in your ear?  Is your heart still open to God's call, no matter how young or old you are?

And what about your local church? 

• Do you realize how formative the vision, mission, and values of your church are not only for the congregation as a whole but for each child, and youth and adult within the congregation?
• Are you finding innovative ways to serve that will strengthen the ministries of your church and will lead to greater spiritual growth, vitality, and congregational health?
• Are you collectively listening to God's whisper, calling your congregation to be a channel of grace and thereby fulfilling God's vision for your unique body of Christ?
• Do you have the courage to go where God is leading you, so that you can more effectively speak out against injustice, be living examples of peace and reconciliation, and reach out to all those in your community who are yearning to hear the good news of Jesus Christ?
• Where will the next step take you - and your church?

Blessings, Laurie

 Dear Friends,

• Maybe it's because Gary and I celebrated our 32nd wedding anniversary last Thursday...
• Or because that same day I hosted most of the 15 new clergy on the Grand Rapids District for lunch...
• Or because Gary and I had the privilege of attending Garrison Keillor's 25 city Summer Love Tour last week, where he told stories about pastors and churches...
• Or because of the coaching that I do almost every day for pastors and/or Staff Parish Relations Committee chairs related to "issues" in the church...
• Or because of the August 1 New York Times article that my daughter sent to me, "Taking a Break from the Lord's Work..."

            For whatever reason, I've been pondering lately the mysterious and marvelous relationship between pastors and congregations, which is sometimes compared to a marriage.  When the bishop and cabinet's appointment of a pastor to a church turns out to be successful, I find myself saying, "This is a perfect match."  A pastor's first year is often referred to as the "honeymoon" period because everyone seems to be on their best behavior.  I've even heard clergy spouses lament, "I feel as if my husband/wife is married to the church instead of me!"

            There is a real sense in which pastors and congregations covenant to be in ministry together in order to build up the body of Christ and bring in God's kingdom on this earth.  In denominations with a call system, pastors and local churches actually court each other and usually sign a contract to seal the relationship.  In denominations with an appointment system, like The United Methodist Church, congregations and pastors reply on the bishop and cabinet to be the matchmakers.  Almost never does the relationship between pastor and congregation last "until death do us part."  Although some clergy serve successfully for 20 or more years in one church, other times the "marriage" never even gets past the honeymoon stage.

            As a district superintendent, I've discovered that the pastor/congregation connection is quite delicate and needs to be treated with great care and grace.  There is potential for immense joy as well as deep heartbreak in such an intimate relationship.  Four years of listening, mentoring, mediating, coaxing, and doing "marriage" counseling for pastors and churches has led me to believe that this elusive dance between partners is an art, not a science.  Of course, it takes two to tango, which implies that both pastors and congregations are responsible for the health of their relationship.

How can church members and friends endanger the relationship with their pastor:

• They often have unrealistic expectations of pastors
• They expect pastors to preach like the polished religious entertainers on TV but don't want them to spend time preparing because they have 100 other things to do as well
• They expect pastors to be available whenever there is a need, even on their day off
• They want the pastor to be their personal chaplain rather than a visionary spiritual leader who equips the laity for ministry
• When they are dissatisfied with the pastor's "performance," they won't speak to the pastor directly because it's too difficult, so they stir up trouble by talking to everyone but the pastor
• They try to make the pastor into someone he/she is not
• They unwittingly bring their own "stuff" into their relationship with their pastor

How pastors can endanger relationships with their parishioners: 

• They respond to the tyranny of the urgent, thus neglecting the most important aspect of their call, which is cultivating their relationship with God through the practice of spiritual disciplines
• By not taking intentional time away for renewal and professional development, their creativity is stifled, and they get into ruts, doing the same old, same old
• They practice poor self-care and boundary-setting because they work too many hours and don't take adequate time for family, Sabbath, or self 
• They become complacent and are not willing to periodically reinvent themselves, especially when they move to a new church or stay in the same church for a long time
• They are not aware of how others perceive them and do not seek out those who will be honest with them and speak the truth in love
• They become defensive and touchy so that others are hesitant to approach them with concerns
• They'd rather "do it myself" than teach and empower lay people to do the church's ministry and not be dependent on the pastor
• They fear the consequences of Jesus' call to "afflict the comfortable" as well as "comfort the afflicted"  

            Healthy pastor/parishioner relationships are like a marriage: we can't take them for granted, so we have to work hard at them.  By practicing good communication skills, seeking first to understand, then to be understood, and continually working to cultivate trusting relationships, we create an atmosphere of love and respect in our congregations, which is the springboard for effective and outer-directed ministry.

            I saw great signs of hope last week as our new district pastors described the gracious way in which their new congregations have welcomed them, how they are implementing their 90 day plans, and how they intend to take care of themselves.  The pastors talked about walking every day, practicing yoga, doing morning devotions separate from sermon preparation, meeting with a spiritual director, building a wooden sailboat, gardening, writing their children's activities into their calendar as non-negotiable, and not checking email on their day off.  One pastor passed on this advice from her grandfather, who was an active pastor for 79 years: "You have to have something to go home and pound on."

            Most of our new pastors are on their honeymoon right now.  But the honeymoon won't last, and the reality of life together will set in - probably sooner than later.  The pastor is not perfect; neither is the church. Yet we have been matched together, for better or worse.

What can pastors and laity do to ensure their covenant stays strong

when the honeymoon is over?

• Take care of our own spiritual formation and relationship with God and encourage others to do the same
• Honor differences and give each other space to discover our unique spiritual gifts
• Work hard to become approachable, open, vulnerable, patient, and flexible  
• Embrace changing roles in a changing world, including the roles of pastor and laity
• Covenant to work together through the tough times so that we can sing confidently, "Through many danger, toils, and snares, we have already come; 'tis grace has brought us safe thus far, and grace will lead us home"
• Employ good conflict resolution practices; if reconciliation cannot be achieved, don't be afraid to seek "marriage counseling"
• Keep your eye on the prize, which is the heavenly call of God in Jesus Christ (Philippians 4:14); a.k.a. don't sweat the small stuff
• Remember that we cannot change others.  We can only change ourselves.  And when we change ourselves, we become more effective and faithful clergy and lay persons.

            These wise words from the German author, Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749-1832), summarize well the essence of every healthy relationship, including that of pastor and congregation.  I invite you to pray this quote as a prayer every day this week. 

            "I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element.  It is my personal approach that creates the climate.  It is my daily mood that makes the weather.  I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous.  I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration.  I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal.  In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or de-humanized. If we treat people as they are, we make them worse.  If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming." 

Blessings,

Laurie

Dear Friends,

            Imagine 650 pairs of hands spread out across the city of Grand Rapids!  Last Saturday United Methodists and community volunteers spent a day offering their hands in service through a ReThink event called Hands Across the City, sponsored by United Methodist Metro Ministry of Grand Rapids.  We built a $76,800 playground from scratch and weeded, painted, built tables and benches, and fixed equipment in 11 other city parks and public schools.

• At Palmer School Alice is weeding a community garden as she shares her passion for helping people help themselves by growing food in public places.
• At Congress School I am introduced to Shana, a young adult volunteer who is now attending the local community college in large part because of the outreach of Trinity UMC, which is near Congress School. Coming from a highly dysfunctional family, Shana has been mentored by caring adults at the church since 2nd grade and told me that her goal is to become the first African American Supreme Court justice.

            How is it possible to get 650 people to give up the most gorgeous Saturday of our brief Michigan summer to help others?  Why weren't they at the beach, on their boat, or on the golf course?  I am convinced it's because The United Methodist Church from its very beginning met people where they were and offered faith, hope, and love.  It's because each new generation is called to rethink how we engage the physical and spiritual needs of our world.  It's because our faith compels us to reinvent ourselves, step outside of our churches, and make a difference in our community. 

• At Cherry Park, K.C., a neighborhood community organizer, is deeply grateful for the volunteers who are painting her little office building, weeding, and cleaning up a wading pool that is used by 30 neighborhood children every weekday. "The partnership is the greatest thing," says K.C. "The only way to make a difference in our city is by working together."
• Jim drove 45 miles from Muskegon to volunteer at Aberdeen Park, and he brought with him 2 strapping grandsons, his sister-in-law, and her 4 grandchildren. They are cleaning out a supply closet, picking up trash, painting picnic tables, and touching up playground equipment.

            God does not want us to wait until people come to us.  Rather, we are called to take the initiative to reach out to our neighbors where they are.  We offer them God's love in a very visible way by discovering needs and then working with our urban neighbors to make this city a better place.

•  I've never seen a track gutter before, but a group of volunteers at Briggs Park is digging dirt out of the gutter with their bare hands to ensure that when it rains, water flows smoothly through the gutter and keeps the running track dry. Dave, a young man who just moved to the neighborhood a week ago, cannot believe all the volunteers who are lovingly and meticulously cleaning out a park that is usually trashed. As he whips out his camera to take numerous pictures of the group, he says, "I know you are not here to gain recognition, but I want you to know how grateful I am for what you are doing."
• Lou calls them "angel points." A resident in the neighborhood of Lincoln Park, Lou and a few other neighbors "take care of their park" since the City of Grand Rapids Parks and Recreation Department has lost 68% of its staff and 40% of its maintenance workers since 2004 because of budget cuts. Lou, who expresses appreciation for the red-shirted ReThink volunteers, says, "You get angel points for doing nice things. Our satisfaction is in the doing, not the recognition."

            The people of The United Methodist Church believe that the church is not a building, an idea, or a belief.  The church is God's people moving out into the community to love, grow, serve, and change the world.  When we take the time to help neighbors in need, build relationships with friends and strangers alike, and work and serve together, we do change the world, one community at a time, one park at a time, one person at a time.

• The most challenging project of the day is at Sweet Street Park, where 3 bouncy riding toys need to be moved to a safer location because they are constantly being vandalized and are not within sight of watchful parents. Aided by a backhoe, 7 volunteers with sweat dripping down their faces, move three 500 pound concrete foundation blocks to the new location for these popular toys.
• At Garfield Park several hundred volunteers build a $76,800 state of the art KaBOOM playground in 5 hours. The only major project that had been done in this park in the past 20 years was removing the swimming pool. The playground was designed entirely by children in the neighborhood and, after the cement dries, will be a source of laughter, fun, and endless joy for hundreds of God's precious little ones.

            During the playground build, a Hispanic-Latino man walks through the park with 5 young children under the age of 10.  As the children see what is happening, their eyes grow huge, and they ask, "Can we help?"  Volunteers reluctantly tell the children that they have to be 18 years old to be on the construction site but that they can come back and play on the new playground any time.  "Thank you so much for building this playground for us," one small child says.  They stay and help set up chairs for the afternoon musical celebration. 

            All over the world Christians are beginning to understand that faith is a verb.  Love is not true love unless it is more than words.  Love in action is what will transform structures and institutions as well as individual lives. 

            At the same time, we can do far more together than we can alone.  It is in our United Methodist DNA to intentionally connect with other United Methodist churches in order to be in ministry together.  Unfortunately, we don't always work very collegially with our sister churches, let alone engage the world by partnering with schools, businesses, non-profit and community organizations, and other denominations and religions. 

            One of the greatest forces for social change in our world is unleashed when people of faith lead the way in organizing, advocating, and witnessing to God's inclusive love for all people.  Whatever the issue - education, safety in our cities, health care, immigration reform, urban violence - the power of the Holy Spirit is let loose when we bring people together by building relationships, sharing the good news of Jesus Christ, and transforming lives, one by one.   

            The ripple effect of Hands Across the City will be felt all over Grand Rapids.  Several dozen United Methodist Churches cooperated together in a new way and had a great time.  We worked side by side with city and neighborhood organizations, which will open new doors to mission and ministry.  We met new friends, which will facilitate greater connections and cooperation.  And thousands of city residents will be blessed by cleaner, safer, and more beautiful parks, which will instill pride and encourage more people to take more responsibility for their city.

            The 1,300 hands across the city were dirty on Saturday.  The hands were scratched, stained with paint, had a few splinters, and were sore and weary.  But they were Christ's hands, for Christ has no hands but yours and mine to do his work in the world.  Those hands scored a few angel points as well. 

            How is your congregation rethinking church and reaching out beyond the walls of your building?  Share your story! 

Blessings, Laurie

Dear Friends,

            Last Saturday evening Gary and I attended a wedding reception where the matron of honor gave this bit of advice to the groom on how to relate to his new wife (her sister), "If you're wrong, speak up.  If you're right, shut up."  To keep relationships healthy, we must learn how to apologize if we make a mistake and not flaunt it if we are right.  The speaking up part seems so simple, but it's not.  At least it's hard to do it right.    

            This has been the year of the apology, hasn't it?  This full page ad appeared several times in The Grand Rapids Press last week.  "On Monday morning, 19,500 barrels of oil leaked from an Enbridge Energy Partners pipeline into Talmadge Creek  and the Kalamazoo River...   We apologize to the people of Marshall and Battle Creek.  Enbridge understands that the leak has disrupted people's lives and made a mess of properties, public spaces and waterways...  We will make this right.  We will answer your questions, we will be accountable for our actions, and we will take responsibility for what has happened.  Sincerely, Patrick D. Daniel, President and CEO, Enbridge, Inc."

            I was impressed by the immediate and clear admission of culpability in the ad.  No excuses, no rationalizations.  "We will take responsibility."  Compare that with the apology of BP chief executive Tony Hayward, who infamously said a few days into largest oil spill and environmental disaster in American history, "We're sorry for the massive disruption this has caused their lives.  There's no one who wants this thing over more than I do.  I'd like my life back."  Hayward's insensitive comment, which focused on primarily himself rather than the victims of the oil spill, did not appear genuine and certainly did not endear him or BP to the American public. 

            Other high profile apologies this year include Tiger Woods, Jim Joyce (whose wrong call spoiled Armando Galarraga's perfect game), and Akio Toyoda, the CEO of Toyota, who flew halfway across the world to apologize in Washington D.C. on April 24, "When the cars are damaged, it is as though I am as well."

            An apology can be one of the most profound ways to bring healing and reconciliation.  Author and screenwriter Erich Segal's famous line in the 1970 movie, Love Story, has entered the mainstream of American life, "Love means never having to say you are sorry."  In contrast, I am convinced that love means being the first person to say, "I am sorry." 

            Why are we so fascinated with apologies?  Maybe it's because being able to confess a wrongdoing and forgive those who have harmed us is part of the image of God within us.  Perhaps it's because restoring relationships by apologizing is what makes us human and distinguishes us from other forms of life.  Maybe it's because we find it so difficult to humble ourselves to apologize or because we've heard one too many fake apologies.

What makes for a good apology?

• We sincerely admit that we are sorry immediately after any offense
• We understand the harm that we have caused the other person
• We dialogue with the other person and develop a heart to heart connection. 
• We take responsibility for our action by making amends 
• We take positive steps not to repeat our mistake

What makes for a false apology?

• We are self-serving and do not show remorse
• Others get the sense that we are trying to wiggle out of something
• We say what others want to hear
• Our apology lacks conviction or empathy for the person we've harmed
• We don't care enough to change our behavior

What is the best way to make an apology?

            It's always best to talk directly with the person we have harmed, face to face if at all possible.  If we anticipate that the conversation may be difficult, we may both agree to have a mediator sit in on the conversation.  I've played that role numerous times in my years as a pastor.  Some people use texting, email, or snail mail to make an apology because it's easier, but this is never as effective as a sit down meeting. 

            Did you know that there is a completely anonymous way to make an apology for those lacking courage or common sense?  Just log on to the website thepublicapology.com.  Since everyone has to apologize for something, this website offers a quick, easy, and painless way to say we're sorry.    

• We can write an apology without signing our name. The person we've harmed won't know, but at least we can get it off our chest!
• We can check and see if someone has apologized to us, although I have no idea how we would recognize an anonymous confession.
• We can read all the apologies that others have made and even vote on the most heartfelt and most outrageous apology. It might even make us feel less bad about our own mistakes.

            Over 29 years of ministry, I have seen firsthand how difficult it is for church members and pastors to apologize to one another.  The inability to sit down together and talk openly and honestly about differences is one of the greatest contributing factors to unhealthy churches.  Pastors and church members who get into the habit of blaming everyone else but themselves create a culture of mistrust that undermines effective ministry.

            Leaders must be especially sensitive to the importance of apologies.  At times we need to take responsibility for things that are not our direct fault.  We may not have personally done anything wrong, but if our organization or someone in our organization has harmed another, we are the ones to take the blame, apologize, and right the wrong.  People who have been wronged are usually satisfied when someone in authority listens to them, demonstrates concern, and acts to make amends.  Leaders are called to do the right thing rather than protect themselves or the organization.

            Consider the scandalous revelations over the past 15 years of widespread sexual abuse by Catholic priests.  Compounding the horror of the abuse itself, victims and their advocates blamed the Catholic hierarchy, which too often did not report abuse to the appropriate legal authorities or immediately remove clergy from the priesthood.  Instead, such priests were reassigned to other parishes where they continued to abuse more children and youth.  Moreover, once the abuse was brought out into the open, the hierarchy was painfully slow to apologize, care for the victims, and facilitate healing.

            Within the past year new revelations of sexual abuse by priests in Ireland, Germany, Belgium, and Austria and subsequent cover-ups by high officials have put pressure on the Catholic Church to issue a strong response.  At a June 11 gathering of nearly 15,000 clergy in conclusion of the celebration of the "Year of the Priest," Pope Benedict said that he would do "everything possible" to stop "sin within the church."  He said, "And so it happened that, in this very year of joy for the sacrament of the priesthood, the sins of priests came to light, particularly the abuse of little ones...  We too beg forgiveness from God and from the persons involved, while promising to do everything possible to ensure that such abuse will never occur again."

            Effective apologies demand courage and sensitivity from both parties.  "You were right.  I was wrong.  I'm sorry."  Simple words that express humility, remorse, and commitment go a long way in restoring relationships.  Plus, we gain credibility and respect when we admit that we are not perfect. 

            "Thank you for apologizing.  I admire your honesty."  By becoming more gracious and forgiving people ourselves, we not only provide encouragement for others to apologize, but we also counter our culture's often punitive attitude toward those who fail.  (Read Ezra chapter 10, where the example of Ezra's confession promoted the people of Israel to repent for intermarrying with the people of the land.)

            In this year of the apology, with the church leading the way in modeling healthy relationships, I wonder if good apologies will become so commonplace that fake apologies become a thing of the past.  If that doesn't happen, I sincerely apologize.  I am sorry for misleading you and will never suggest such a thing again.

Blessings, Laurie

Dear Friends,

            Timing is everything.   You've probably never heard of him.  Ron Wayne was one of the original founders of the Apple computer company, along with Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak.  However, Wayne became scared of the magnitude and timing of their venture and decided to leave the company after less than 2 weeks.  Wayne's share of the company would have been worth $22 billion today.  According to the June 7 Chicago Tribune, Wayne said, "I left Apple for reasons that seemed sound to me at the time.  Why should I go back and 'what if' myself?"  Wayne is now living off social security and sells stamps and coins.

            Timing plays a huge role in our world.  Our lives are critically affected by when and where we are born and who our parents are.  These circumstances are not only beyond our control but also serve as both open and closed doors to opportunity.  Gary's mother is an extremely intelligent person and became a self-taught accountant, not having had the opportunity to go to college.  I can only imagine what she might have done had she been born in 1969 rather than 1919.  Maria was born in rural Cuba in 1986 but has had no chance to better her life, even though she is very gifted.  Andre is a teenager from Guatemala whose mother is an undocumented worker in Michigan.  Several times he's attempted to cross the Mexican border in search of his mother, but each time he is caught and sent back home.  This promising soccer player may never be able to live with his mother, let alone achieve his full potential.   

            On the other hand, understanding the nuances of timing can serve to further our careers and enhance our lives, no matter when or where we live.  There is an art to being in the right place at the right time.  Businesses can successfully roll out new products when they calculate the proper timing.  Politicians can stand out from the competition by timing appearances and public announcements.  Non-profit organizations can reap benefits by discerning the right time to conduct capital campaigns. 

            Some people have a knack for taking advantage of perfect timing to accomplish great things in our world.  Others are simply lucky.  Still others become victims of timing glitches, like those who have been downsized over the past several years during the economic downturn or college graduates entering a dismal job market.   

            In everyday matters, developing a 6th sense about timing can serve us well.  You don't ask your parents for money when they are in a bad mood.  You don't ask your boss for a favor when she has just emerged from a stressful meeting.  You don't tell the organist right before a Sunday morning worship service, "You know, John, I've never liked the way you play hymns."  And you don't bring up an important issue with your spouse if he/she is not a morning person and hasn't had his/her first cup of coffee yet. 

            Timing is also an integral aspect of our faith.  The Bible uses 2 Greek words for "time," chronos and kairos.  Chronos refers to our human calculation of time, but kairos is God's time.  Chronos is quantitative, whereas kairos is qualitative.  The most well known scripture about timing comes from Ecclesiastes 3, "For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven."  In God's time, Moses led the Israelites for 40 years in the wilderness but was not allowed to see the Promised Land.  Habakkuk prophesied (2:3), "For there is still a vision for the appointed time; it speaks of the end, and does not lie.  If it seems to tarry, wait for it; it will surely come, it will not delay."  And Paul says in Galatians 4:4, "But when the fullness of time had come, God sent his son." 

            Last week, I became involved in a non-church conversation with a young man whom I didn't know very well.  When I casually asked what he did, he said that he worked for the government in an office job that he hated.  He knew that I was a pastor and admitted being envious that I loved my job and saw it as a calling. 

            I asked what his passion was and what gave him joy, indicating that this might provide a clue for his future.  He gave a thoughtful answer, then said that he was ready for something new because the timing was now right.  He has been praying that God would open doors for him but also acknowledged that he had to be patient because God's timing is not always his timing. 

            Many years ago, when I lived and studied in West Berlin, Germany, I had the opportunity to sing in a semi-professional choir.  I'll never forget performing J.S. Bach's Cantata 106, Gottes Zeit ist die Allerbeste Zeit, which means "God's Time is the Very Best Time."  This cantata, intended for a funeral and composed when Bach was about 22 years old, exhibits great depth and pathos for a composer so young. 

            The first chorus begins, "God's own time is the very best of times.  In him living, moving, we exist, as long as he wills.  In him shall we die at the right time, when he wills."   I am reminded of the many times I have sat with people whose loved ones are dying.  Often they will ask, "Why is it taking so long?  Arlene is ready to die and is at peace.  Why doesn't she just die?"   I usually respond by gently reminding the family that God's time is not our time and that God will give us the strength to be patient and wait.

            The greatest challenge of understanding timing is balance.  How do we hold in one hand the fact that some things are just not going to happen for us and in the other hand the knowledge that God has a plan for our lives?  How do we reconcile the realization that what we want so desperately may not be what God wants for us at a particular time?  Is it possible to believe that when God closes one door, another will open?

            The word "providence" is used to acknowledge that God holds all of life tenderly and compassionately.  Providence is God's activity in the world.  All things are in God's hands, yet they are not pre-ordained, as if we have no say in the choices we make.  How do we balance our own desires with God's call? 

            Perhaps the answer is to completely let go of self.  By setting aside what we think we deserve, what we are entitled to, and what might make us rich and famous, we are free to discern our God-given passions.  Those passions, in turn, unlock the door to God's timing and God's will, not our will.

            How do we know when the time is right to go in a different direction in our personal lives?  And how do we know when the time is right to implement change in our church, like begin a building project, initiate a new ministry, or start a second worship service?  I invite you to ponder these tips for timing:

• Do I/we have the resources?
• Do I/we have the energy?
• Have I/we built up enough momentum?
• Do I/we have the right leadership?
• Have I/we communicated well?
• Do I/we have a compelling desire or need to change?
• Have I/we let the issue ripen enough?
• What are the people in authority (those who naturally capture our attention) saying and doing about this?
• Does the project fit with my/our vision and where God is calling me/us?
• Have I/we spent time in prayer and discernment?

            Even when we think we've done everything right, those pesky timing glitches will be there on occasion.  Sometimes we don't even know that the timing is wrong until afterwards.  In one of the churches I served, we attempted a major building renovation, which was not approved by the church conference the first time around.  The Building Committee was deeply disappointed, but as we analyzed what happened, we realized that our timing was off.  We were too far ahead of the congregation, which did not yet have confidence in the vision, details, and financing of the proposed project.  After another year of constant communication and momentum-building, the congregation gave overwhelming approval.  Clearly, this was God's timing, and the results were truly amazing.

            Timing issues will continue to challenge us every day, from cooking, to medicine, to athletics, to personal finances, to job searching, to engaging in healthy relationships.  And, for some, the time will never be right because kairos implies change, and change is difficult, risky, and challenging.  The good news, however, is that when we lead with our hearts and are in tune with God's prompting, we are given the wisdom, strength, and will to recognize God's time as the very best time. 

            What time is it for you?  I'd love to hear your stories about timing. 

"See, now is the acceptable time; see, now is the day of salvation!"

I Corinthians 6:2b

Blessings, Laurie

 Dear Friends,

            The first time it happened I admit I was a little scared.  Gary and I had just settled down for a long ride on a New York City subway train when a man in our car started shouting, "I am homeless, and I need help.  I want to give each of you a chance to make a donation."  Making his way to each section of the car, he asked aggressively, "Anyone here? Anyone here?"  I sensed that people were sympathetic, but almost everyone kept their head down and listened to music or read a book.  Several people gave the man a bill, and he moved on to the next car.

            Over the years, I've enjoyed learning to use the subway system wherever I travel, but I'd never experienced panhandling in an actual subway car.  Knowing that we were a captive audience with a person whose mannerisms made me very uneasy, I had visions of this man pulling out a gun or knife to harm anyone who refused to give him money.  I breathed a sigh of relief when he left.

            The next day I asked our son if our experience was unusual. Garth, who spends up to 90 minutes a day commuting on the subway, said, "No, this happens all the time.  You get used to it.  It's just a part of subway culture."  If you visit any major city around the world, you will discover an amazing underground way of life as millions of people travel beneath the surface of the earth every day.  As Gary and I became part of this culture for 6 days, I decided to embrace every aspect of subway life.  In the process, I discovered 2 things:

1. God is very much present below ground as well as above ground.
2. I yearn for a subway faith.

            What are the characteristics of a subway faith?

• A subway faith delights in diversity. 

            Coming from Grand Rapids, Michigan, I was utterly amazed at the variety of people sitting around me.  It seemed as if every country, language, hair and clothing style in the world was represented.  And if I (looked underneath the surface) observed closely enough, I could discern that everyone had a story.  People looked sad, bored, hopeful, unhealthy, stressed, jubilant, tired, expectant, unbalanced, and alert.  Each one was a child of God, created with gifts to offer the world.  I can't think of a greater foretaste of the celestial banquet than the subway car.

• A subway faith is a great equalizer. 

            In Acts 10:34, the apostle Paul tells the centurion Cornelius and his friends that God shows no partiality between Jews and Gentiles, for anyone who fears God and does right is acceptable to God.  There is no partiality shown on the subway, either.  No one will get there sooner than anyone else.  We all pay the same price and sit on the same kinds of seats.  If the car is full we stand, and if the car is about to leave, the doors will close on us no matter who we are.

• A subway faith realizes that the journey is just as important as the destination.

            When we travel, it's not usually the famous landmarks at the end of the journey that teach us the most; it's the observations that we make along the way.  As I watched people wait for the subway and then sit in the cars, I sensed that most folks were disconnected from their surroundings.  They were either listening to music on their ipod, talking on their cell phone, reading a newspaper or book, or talking with a companion. 

            A subway faith is not so intent on getting some place that it misses the lessons that can be learned from interacting with subway culture, including street musicians, panhandlers, murals, ticket sellers, advertisements, children, students, professionals, and tourists.  In the same way, the goal of the Christian life is not to get to heaven, but to live fully and faithfully every day. 

• A subway faith softens hearts and is open to surprise and beauty. 

            I am always surprised by the quality of street music that I hear in our major cities.  On Sunday afternoon 2 men from the African country of Senegal were playing native stringed instruments as we waited for our subway.  They attracted quite a gathering of people who smiled, clapped, and encouraged a little girl who was dancing to the music.  I put a dollar in their hat.  In those few moments, musicians and travelers experienced community.

• A subway faith notices the extraordinary in the ordinary.

            Unfortunately, in the rush of everyday life, it's easy to give in to the mind and heart numbing tendency to become indifferent to our environment, especially on the subway.  On a cold January morning in 2007 a street musician played 6 violin pieces by J.S. Bach in an indoor arcade at the top of a Washington D.C. subway escalator.  During that time 1,097 people passed by him, most on their way to work.  Only 7 people stopped long enough to listen for a brief time.  27 people gave money but most continued walking.  He collected a total of $32.   

            That man was Joshua Bell, one of the most famous violinists in the world.  He was playing a violin worth $3.2 million and just 2 days before sold out a theater in Boston where tickets averaged $100.  Only one person out of 1,097 recognized Joshua Bell.  His subway "performance" was arranged and videoed by the Washington Post as an experiment.

            Race, ethnicity, gender, and age did not distinguish who stopped to listen.  The only constant was the children.  In every single case, when a child walked by Joshua Bell, he or she tried to stop and watch, but a parent led them away.  

            Watching the video weeks later, Bell was mystified by only one thing.  He said, "I'm surprised at the number of people who don't pay attention at all, as if I'm invisible.  Because you know what?  I'm makin' a lot of noise!"  He wondered whether people ignored him because they didn't want to feel guilty about not contributing.

• A subway faith calls us to wrestle with the needs of the world rather than ignore them.  

            At the next stop after the man asked for money in our subway car, a woman came on board with a similar rehearsed speech, "I used to be like you.  I had a job, money, and security.  Now I have nothing, and I can't even feed my children.  Do you have a candy bar or even a bag of chips that I can take to my family?"  A few people gave her money, and she, like the man, moved on to the next car. 

            Two women sitting near me were quite cynical about this plea for money.  "I've heard this before.  How could she get her fingernails done if she doesn't have any money?  It's a scam."  A few stops later, the same woman came back in our car and began reciting the same story!  She looked around, paused, then said, "Oops!  I already did this car."  One of the 2 women replied, dripping with sarcasm, "Yes, you did."  The pan handler quickly moved to the next car, whereupon the woman apologized to the rest of us, "I've had a long day."  The hidden grief and sadness in both women screamed out for understanding, compassion, and grace.

            Are you moving toward a subway faith in your life?

• Are you willing to detour beneath the surface of your existence to walk with those who are living underground rather than see them as an annoyance?
• Can you recognize your fear, guilt and irritation when other people "get in the way" of your secure and sheltered route through life?
• Will you stop along the way to smell the roses as well as the rotting trash?
• Are you open to experiencing God's grace in unexpected places?
• Are you more apt to throw a dollar into the hat when a person "performs" rather than simply asks for money?
• Can you see the genius around you in the octogenarian, the gay man, the street person sitting in the back pew, or the autistic child?
• Is a subway faith merely a means to an end or a means of opening your heart?

            "'It was the most astonishing thing I've ever seen in Washington.  Joshua Bell was standing there playing at rush hour, and people were not stopping, and not even looking, and some were flipping quarters at him!  Quarters!  I wouldn't do that to anybody.  I was thinking, Omigosh, what kind of a city do I live in that this could happen?' 

            When it was over, Stacy Furukawa introduced herself to Bell and tossed in a twenty."  (Stacy Furukawa, the one person who recognized Joshua Bell - quoted by Gene Weingarten, Washington Post staff writer, April 8, 2007)

Blessings, Laurie

 Dear Friends,

            ARE YOU KIDDING ME?  Last Thursday night sports station ESPN aired a one hour prime time special called "The Decision."  Free agent LeBron James, 25 year old former superstar of the Cleveland Cavaliers basketball team, was to announce his decision.  Would he re-sign with the Cavaliers, where he was not able to win an NBA championship in 7 years, or would he jump ship to another team?

            Even if you don't follow sports, I imagine you heard about this impending "decision."  For the last year James has been intensively courted by various teams, including the Chicago Bulls, New York Knicks, New Jersey Nets, and Miami Heat.  Since LeBron comes from Ohio, Cleveland fans were hopeful that he would remain loyal to his beloved hometown team.  A 10 story high mural of James with outstretched arms and the words, "We are all witnesses," has long adorned a building near the Quicken Loans Arena. 

            At 9:27 p.m. last Thursday, halfway through the TV special, James said these words, "This fall, I'm going to take my talents to South Beach and join the Miami Heat."  LeBron will join buddies Dwayne Wade and Chris Bosh in the hope of winning that elusive NBA championship.  The economic impact of James' decision on the city of Miami is expected to be $500-$600 million. 

            I have no use for shameless self-promotion, so I paid little attention to the constant LeBron James hype over the past year.  After all, James is only 25 years old and has been playing in the NBA since he was an 18 year old teenager.  Even though James is a supremely gifted basketball player, he still has some growing up to do. 

            To allow his media handlers to string people along for a year, then concoct a scheme to announce his decision on prime time television demonstrates youthful immaturity, extreme narcissism, and a misunderstanding of his importance in the grand scheme of our earth.   I am more concerned, however, with the way Cleveland fans and LeBron's own teammates were treated.  To make an announcement to the world without the courtesy of informing the Cavaliers' organization ahead of time is both disappointing and disrespectful.  No wonder fans began burning LeBron jerseys on Thursday night.  On Friday the mural came down, and the Cleveland Plain Dealer published a picture of James walking away with the word "GONE" at the top and an arrow pointing to his finger with the phrase, "7 years, $62 million, no rings."

            Whenever national or international events receive an excessive or even outrageous amount of media attention, it prompts me to stop and reflect.  In this case, why was there such an intense reaction to James' announcement?  What does our obsession with the rich and famous say about our country, and what does it say about us?     

            Shame on ESPN for accentuating the hype and using James to their own benefit.  ESPN claims that they did not make money on the show, that James' media team was allowed to sell all the advertising, with proceeds going to the Boys and Girls Clubs of America.  But, as the highest rated program on TV on Thursday night, was this responsible journalism?  Then again, if Americans are willing to watch, why not?

            Clearly, Cleveland fans were outraged by James, as if his decision to exercise his free agency was a betrayal.  Cleveland Cavaliers majority owner Dan Gilbert responded heatedly to James' decision in a letter to Cleveland fans on the team website, "You simply don't deserve this kind of cowardly betrayal ... I personally guarantee that the Cleveland Cavaliers will win an NBA championship before the self-titled former 'king' wins one.  You can take it to the bank."   Gilbert also criticized James for his poor attitude and lackadaisical performance during the last months of the season and the play-offs. 

            Some people called LeBron a coward.  Some said he was more interested in playing with his friends than loyalty to his current team.  Some felt he should stay in Cleveland because he has unfinished business (winning a championship).  Still others claim that James is not a leader but a follower.  He doesn't want to carry a team by himself, so he is looking for others to carry the load.

            Doesn't the anger seem out of proportion to the issue?  Everyone knew that James' contract was up on July 1.  Doesn't being a free agent imply LeBron's freedom to choose another team?  So what's the problem?   Why did they even expect LeBron to come back?  If James felt it was time to move on in his career, who could fault him?   

            I wonder: what if pastors in The United Methodist Church could sign 7 year contracts and then become free agents?  What if we could market our services to the highest church bidder and negotiate our own salary and benefits?  What if we had a 2 hour TV special in West Michigan every spring where churches and pastors could go at it and out-bid each other for their dream pastor?

            You're probably aware that there are 2 primary systems for deploying clergy in Christian churches, the call system and the appointment system.  Most denominations use a call system, where pastors seek out positions on their own, and churches are free to call (hire) whomever they wish.  In contrast, in The United Methodist Church and the Catholic Church, pastors are appointed by a Bishop.  In The UMC, there is mandated consultation with both churches and pastors, but appointments are made by the Bishop.   

            As a District Superintendent, I hear complaints about the appointive system from time to time.  Churches don't like the pastors we send them, and pastors don't like the churches to which we send them.  Occasionally, pastors are upset because they feel they have the skills for leading churches that are far larger than the one to which they are appointed.  "You are preventing me from realizing my full potential," they lament.  "I deserve better than this and am far more capable than I am portrayed to be." 

            The reality is that in the West Michigan Conference we don't have a lot of large churches with hefty salaries.  Few pastors get what they deserve, and many of us will probably experience a pay cut in the course of our careers.  "If you want a large church, grow the church where you are appointed," I am sometimes tempted to say.  Ah, I digress.  Well ... maybe not.

            Perhaps "The Decision" has touched a raw nerve at the same time as it exposes our preoccupation with LeBron James.  At the heart of our struggle to be faithful disciples of Jesus Christ lurk 2 huge temptations:

• Our hidden desire to control

            Just as God gave Adam and Eve the freedom to disobey God, so you and I are given the freedom to make our own way through life.  God deliberately chose not to create us as robots.  What fun would that be?  Rather, God wants us to freely choose the way of discipleship, sacrifice, grace and servanthood. 

            In the same way, none of us can force the heart of another person, even LeBron James.  Unfortunately, our sinful nature rears its ugly head when we desire to control other people's choices, whether it is our spouse, children, pastor, friends, or the Bishop.  For heaven's sake, let LeBron choose his team, respect his choice, and move on!

• Our secret craving for fame and wealth

            Jesus asks us to give up ourselves, let go of pride, and offer our very lives in humble service.  You know what that means.  It means we probably won't ever be as rich as LeBron James.  We'll never have a 10 story billboard with our face on it in Grand Rapids or Muskegon.  We won't be on TV, and we may not ever be recognized as much as we deserve by our family, church, and community. 

            Are you okay with that?  Really?  To be honest, I'm not sure I am.  In the depths of my heart, I still imagine the day when I'll be duly recognized as God's gift to the world.  It's a foolish and unrealistic dream, but it's nevertheless part of my ongoing struggle as a human being to lose my life, my jealousies, and my desire for acclaim for the sake of the kingdom of God. 

            So we're left with "The Decision."  Do you know LeBron's nickname?  "King James."  We remember King James as the King of England who, in his desire for a uniform Bible for the whole Church of England, authorized a new translation, which was in process from 1604-1611.  In the preface we find these words about the men chosen to work on the translation, "There were many chosen, that were greater in other men's eyes than in their own, and that sought the truth rather than their own praise.  Again, they came or were thought to come to the work, learned, not to learn." 

            I pray that LeBron's decision is a good one and that he enjoys playing basketball in Miami, whether he wins an NBA championship or not.  I also hope that he will eventually learn how not to seek his own praise, for that is the mark of human growth, maturity, and responsiveness to the needs of the world. 

            But what about you and me?  What decision do you need to make about how you will live your life?  Remember, you are a free agent. 

Blessings,

Laurie

Dear Friends,

            I am surprised and honored by the request.  I am sitting at breakfast in a diner with my father and 6 other men, buddies who bike together twice a week.  My father asks me to say a prayer, and I thank God for the opportunity to enjoy God's world by biking through the beautiful Pennsylvania countryside on a gorgeous summer day.  Yes, I am little Laurie Hartzel, Gerry's daughter, but I am also a pastor, which opens doors to significant conversation with my father's friends along the road. 

            A few hours later I'm sitting alone on the deck in back of my parents' cottage at the continuing care facility where they have lived for the past dozen years.  It's the 4th day of our vacation, and I am just beginning to relax.  I always know when I'm home, and it's not just because of the sweet corn, pickled eggs, shoefly pie, pretzels, fireflies, PA Dutch accent, and walking in the woods and along the streams of my childhood.  I can feel it in my bones but more so in my heart.  I am grounded and whole.

            It's easy to forget that there is more to life than my job.  I get so caught up in the importance of my "to do" list that I fail to realize that the problems will be there tomorrow as well.  In fact, each time a problem is solved, it seems as if 7 more issues crop up (Luke 11:24-26).  So I am going to set aside the compulsions that hold me hostage and dedicate this vacation time to connecting with my grandson, children, and Gary's and my extended families.  I am attentive and expectant. 

            My focus for meditation the last 2 weeks has been Proverbs 4:23, "Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life." (NIV)  Guarding relationships with my loved ones who live hundreds of miles away is more of a priority than it has ever been, especially now that our three children are also living far away from home.  We may not share the same political, moral, or religion views, but as long as we are connected heart to heart, the wellspring of life keeps our love strong.          

• My parents will be celebrating their 60th anniversary in September.  I marvel at their love, even though my mother and father are not able to live together anymore.
• Because of the progression of my mother's Alzheimers, she has moved to the nursing wing and is receiving Hospice care.  The first day she called me Beulah, her sister's name, but on the day I left, she greeted me with a great big smile, a hug, and the words, "Laurie!"  A few moments of lucidity are as precious as the pearl of great value. 
• Visiting our finally self-sufficient son in New York City reminds me that Gary and I must have done something right as parents, although I am still not sure what it was.  Sitting at a table with my 3 favorite men - my father, my husband, and my son - is not only a rare treat, it's a sacramental experience.
• Table talk with my aunt, uncle and several cousins was deep and spiritually satisfying as we picked up right where we left off the last time we were together.  As I continue the struggle to separate my personal life from my professional life, I realize that my calling as a pastor transcends any boundaries that I artificially place around my existence.  It's okay to talk shop while on vacation!
• My heart melts whenever our 19 month old grandson, Ezra, runs into my arms and plants a big kiss on my face.  Would that all children were as loved and nurtured by their parents as Ezra is by Sarah and Ian.
• At 90, Gary's mother is as sharp as a tack, and it's a joy to hear tales from her childhood and youth.  Gerry informed us that the government says she will live for 8.9 more years, so she does not intend to die any time soon.

            Our vacation reminds me that guarding relationships is at the heart of all human life, even our church life.  As Gary and I were waiting to board a plane last week, I noticed a provocative ad.  3 identical pictures of the same beautiful waterfall displayed 3 different words at the top of each picture: Romance, Danger, and Energy.  The caption underneath read, "Understanding different values helps us serve our customers better."  HSBC Bank.  Could it be that guarding our heart involves understanding the values of and thus guarding the hearts of those we love and serve?  If so, the HSBC advertisement just might unlock the key to fruitful ministry as well.

            Yesterday was the first day that many pastors in The United Methodist Church preached in their new churches.  It's a time of great uncertainty as well as anticipation for pastors and laity alike.  Pastors wonder, "Will I be successful in this ministry setting?  Will I be able to work with laity to enhance the health, vitality, and outreach of the congregation?  Will we learn to love each other?"  At the same time laity wonder, "Will we be able to connect with the new pastor?  Can we support the pastor in making the best use of his/her gifts to enhance ministry in our congregation?  Will we be open to God's vision so that our congregation becomes a saving station in our community?"

            I have asked every transitioning pastor in the Grand Rapids District to develop a 90 day plan for ministry in their new congregation.  When we take time to systematically think through how we will get off to a good start in a new ministry setting, not only can we maximize the best use of our time, but we also learn how to guard our hearts and the hearts of those we serve and remain connected to the wellspring of life.

            Although every 90 day plan is different, each new pastor has the same primary task: to develop relationships and build trust with the congregation.  Just as healthy families intentionally keep connected with each other, so relationships form the core of healthy churches.  Pastors cannot lead credibly until they seek to understand the different values of the congregation and until church members trust them. That means making it a priority to get to know people, from lay leaders, to shut-ins, to visitors, to long-time members, to those being served though outreach ministries, to those in the hospital, to staff, to children and teenagers.  Listening to the hopes and dreams of members and friends helps pastors and congregations become knit together as the body of Christ and opens the doors for vital collaborative ministry.

            At the same time, many churches offer new pastors a built-in trust unless and until we betray that trust.  In my travels around the district, I often hear lay persons refer to their pastor not with their first and/or last name but with the word "Pastor."  "Pastor's" sermon on Sunday was fantastic.  "Pastor" visited me in the hospital.  "Pastor" is going to teach a new Bible study. 

            I'm always a bit surprised when people refer to me simply as "Pastor" without adding my name.  I prefer to be called "Laurie" or "Pastor Laurie" because I believe I can connect better with people in a more informal manner.  I am also aware that even though I am a pastor, I am very human as well and not worthy to be placed on a pedestal.  In fact, many lay people are much more gifted and spiritually mature than I am, yet it is my role to empower and lead them in using their skills and graces for ministry.

            Lay persons often see more in us pastors than we see in ourselves.  Just as Ezra unconditionally loves his parents and grandparents and comes to know the grace of God through us, so parishioners see us as representatives of Christ.  They see in us the presence of God.  They see us as bearers of the Holy Spirit.  They see us as shepherds of the flock.  The responsibility is awe-inspiring and almost enough to make us turn around and run away. 

            I suspect that in the hearts of lay persons lies one key question for their new pastor, "Will I be able to trust you enough to share the things that I have never told anyone else?"  To be the kind of pastor that our churches need us to be requires authenticity in building relationships, listening carefully, and understanding different values.  It also demands that we spend time alone with God, cultivate our relationship with Jesus, care for our family, and, above all, guard our heart, for in our heart is the wellspring of life.

            How is guarding relationships a part of your plan for the next 90 days?  How will understanding different values offer fullness of life to others?  I'd love to hear your thoughts.

Blessings, Laurie

Dear Friends,

            As I travel around the Grand Rapids District on Sunday mornings, I hear comments from laity about preaching.  Staff Parish Relations Committees invariably tell me that the most important quality their congregation needs in a pastor is good preaching.  It is clear that preaching is seen as a primary, if not the primary task of a local church pastor.  Lay persons expect pastors to preach well.

            As a matter of fact, I've rarely met a pastor who didn't think he or she was a good preacher.  That's where pastors and lay persons differ.  In 1993 the pollster George Barna's research showed that while 44% of congregations rated their pastor's preaching as excellent, 81% of pastors rated themselves as excellent.  When people are asked why they leave a church, many cite mediocre preaching.  Unfortunately, some clergy have an unrealistic image of their preaching prowess.  We think that all we need to do is put on our fancy headset, pace back and forth, become a talking head, throw in a few jokes, and we're an effective pulpiteer. 

            What SPRC committees hope for is preaching that connects the biblical narrative to their everyday life, speaking "from the heart," and sermons that help them become better disciples of Jesus Christ.  What lay persons don't care for is lifeless sermons, poorly prepared preachers, rambling from the pulpit, and sermons that are not relevant to the issues and concerns they face in their work, family, and spiritual life.

            The goal of preaching is spiritual formation and transformation, as we guide parishioners into an encounter with God and the world.  Preaching is intentional and individual.  Preaching is also an art, demanding creativity, imagination, and practice.  So do it well!  Laity lament when their pastors take short-cuts, rely too much upon internet resources, or seem disconnected.  On the other hand, laity express high praise and thanksgiving for pastors who actively engage them in the power of the Word of God in a way that is persuasive and elicits a response. 

            Preaching is the most challenging task of ministry.  I have only the utmost respect and admiration for pastors who prepare and deliver sermons week after week after week.  In 3 previous essays, I addressed the preacher's poise, the preacher's life, and the preacher's audience.  Today I invite us to think about the art of crafting a creative and compelling sermon.  

• Will you preach from the lectionary, use sermon series, or employ a combination of both? 

            Many preachers prefer the lectionary because, over the long haul, the prescribed scriptures present the fullness of the Bible.  The lectionary also forces us to work with difficult passages and avoid the temptation of using our favorite texts over and over.  Other preachers are convinced that sermon series are a better way to engage congregations in biblical narratives that directly impact the life of a congregation at a particular time.  Lectionary study groups are especially helpful as preachers encounter the text together.

            More often than I'd like, I hear people judge a pastor by whether the sermon is "biblical" or not.  I confess that I've never really understood what they mean by "preaching from the Bible."  It may refer to confusion over whether pastors use as their starting point the text or the topic, the biblical narrative or the human condition.  The reality is that biblical content without contemporary relevance does not connect, and topical preaching without engagement with scripture is empty. 

• What preaching style will you choose?
  • Will you preach in a more traditional style or use a teaching style where you walk the congregation through a biblical text verse by verse?
  • Will you use a manuscript, notes, an outline, or memorize your sermon? 
  • Don't be afraid to experiment with different styles.  I decided over 20 years ago that I was a more effective communicator when I did not read my sermon.  I have always disciplined myself to write a manuscript so that I can properly think through and express my thoughts.  However, every time I choose to preach without that manuscript I am still petrified! 
  • Outstanding preachers use all of the above styles.  The key is not the style but focused preparation and connecting with the congregation.  There are no shortcuts to good preaching. 
• How will you prepare?

• I can't emphasize enough the importance of long range sermon planning so that preaching coordinates with the rest of congregational life. Pick your sermon themes and scriptures 6 months to a year ahead of time. (The Holy Spirit works that far ahead as well!)
• Have a file in your computer for each sermon so that as you read and go about your life, the scriptures will be in your subconscious, and you can record notes and reflections. If you only work a week ahead, you may miss the perfect sermon illustration, which was in Sports Illustrated 3 weeks ago.
• There are endless resources on the Internet. Resist the temptation to "borrow" large chunks of the sermons of others. Cite your sources rather than pass off others' work as your own.
• Set aside enough time for research and writing. Do you have a weekly routine? Where and when do you work on your sermon? Put in the time!
• Always keep in front of you the "so what?" question. When the congregation leaves, how do you hope they will be convicted and transformed?

• Creativity within the sermon itself

             Because we live in a fast-paced society with high expectations for public speaking, and because people have different learning styles, we must find ways to make our sermons interesting.  I am not talking about gimmicks, but we can use technology and other forms of creativity to enhance the message.

• Have you tried video clips, singing, poetry, drama, dance, first person sermons, video interviews/testimonies, signing, or asking an artist to paint, weave, make pottery, or sculpt during the sermon? 
• How about interacting directly with the congregation, or planting people in the congregation to give responses during the sermon or ask questions? 
• Some preachers use powerpoint slides, sermon outlines, or "fill in the blanks" in the bulletin to reinforce the message.  Be careful, however, that people are not so intent on writing or focusing on the screen that they miss the big picture.                          

• The role of the rest of the worship service

            In a well constructed worship service, everything fits together.  The theme for the day should be reinforced by the sermon as well as the music, prayers, liturgy, and children's time.  People can only remember one thing from a sermon/worship experience.  What do you want that one thing to be?

             Form a worship design team to collaboratively plan every aspect of the worship service, including the prelude, call to worship, announcements, dance, drama, hymns, visuals, creative presentations of the scripture, choir anthems, sung responses, various forms of prayer, and testimonies.

             Don't forget the Response to the Word or Invitation to Christian Discipleship.  Every Sunday we are called to respond to what we have heard and experienced in worship and preaching.  It could be a testimony, unison response, song, communion, baptismal renewal, the offering, healing prayers, or an altar call.  If you don't ask for a response, you may not get one!

             Here are my top 10 preaching tips.

1. There is no one way to preach.  Find the style that enables you to be most effective.
2. Too much exegesis can become boring, and too much of yourself is not appropriate.
3. Stories can be helpful because people remember them, but make sure they illustrate the heart of the sermon.
4. Don't wing it.  Believe me, we can tell.
5. Teaching instructs.  Preaching transforms.  Don't forget to preach even as you teach.
6. Be organized.  Know where you are going with your sermon, then go there!
7. Preaching comes from the heart.  Give your entire being to the task. 
8. Always preach for response.
9. Seek feedback on your preaching so that you can continuously improve.  Lay persons, we value your gentle, constructive input, but please don't unload on us right after church.  The sermon is still too fresh for us to hear what you are saying. 
10. The fact that people who have dozens of other options get up early on Sunday morning to come to worship is both amazing and awe-inspiring.  There is no greater privilege than sharing God's word with those who are hungry to encounter the living God.  Feed them.   

Blessings, Laurie

P.S. The next Leading from the Heart will be posted on July 5 because I will be on vacation next week.

Dear Friends,

            Jesus would love West Michigan!  After all, Jesus said that he came that we may have life and have it abundantly (John 10:10).  And we do enjoy the good life in West Michigan, at least according to The Gallup-Healthways Well-Being Index, which interviewed more than 353,000 Americans in 162 large and medium-sized U.S. cities during 2009. 

            The survey asked individuals to assess their present life, jobs, physical health, emotional state of mind, healthy behaviors, and access to basic services.  Many of the top ranking cities are out West, are fairly prosperous, and have a major university, military installation, or state Capital.

            It's no surprise that Boulder, Colorado ranked as the happiest city in the U.S. and that Honolulu, Hawaii, Provo, Utah, and Santa Rosa, California were in the top 5.  So how in the world did Holland-Grand Haven slip into the #2 spot? 

            In fact, when the survey was released earlier this year, ABC's "World News with Diane Sawyer" did not travel to Boulder but chose to feature Holland, Michigan instead.  How could a small city in an economically depressed area of the state with the highest unemployment rate in the country rank second in health and well-being?

            In her broadcast, host Sawyer said that Holland, known for its "horrible blizzards and horrible unemployment," also has an abundance of churches, a religion that reaches out, many willing volunteers, a reputation for generosity, strong family bonds, and a low crime rate.  Sawyer said, "Think of it as a city still living in the Norman Rockwell world."

            Since reading the survey, I've been ruminating about the role that religion may play in Holland-Grand Haven's #2 ranking.  Although we have a lot of United Methodist churches in West Michigan, our region is dominated by a Dutch Reformed church ethos, which does impact our culture and way of life. 

            Since my own vision for ministry in the Grand Rapids District is healthy churches and healthy pastors, I wonder if people of faith are, indeed, having a positive effect on the health of the region.  I'd like to think that we experience a greater sense of well-being in West Michigan because we are serious about living like Jesus and because others are inspired by our example.

            Rev. Ed. Dobson, pastor emeritus of Calvary Church in Grand Rapids, has written a book called The Year of Living Like Jesus; My Journey of Discovering What Jesus Would Really Do.  During the year 2008, Dobson chronicled his attempt to actually live as he thought Jesus would if he were alive today.  He read the gospels 32 times, grew a beard, dressed in a white shirt with Orthodox Jewish tassels, ate kosher, practiced Sabbath and Jewish holy days, and engaged in Jewish, Orthodox, and Catholic prayer practices.  Dobson even took up drinking alcohol, which was a bit of a problem when he accepted a position as Vice-President of Spiritual Formation at Cornerstone University, where faculty were pledged to abstinence. 

            Dobson's book is a fascinating exploration of the feasibility of translating a first century Jewish lifestyle into 21st century West Michigan.  But the greatest challenge Dobson faced in 2008 was not his lifestyle choices but how others perceived those choices.  Case in point: how would Jesus have voted in the 2008 presidential election?

            Ed Dobson worked for Jerry Falwell for many years before becoming pastor of Calvary Church in Grand Rapids.  He was a conservative, Republican, evangelical Christian who never once voted for a Democrat!  In 2008, however, Dobson decided that the 3 major areas of Jesus' teaching should guide his voting decision:

• Treatment of the poor, the marginalized, and the oppressed
• Treatment of one's enemies
• Commitment to peacemaking

            Dobson's reading of the gospels led him to vote for Barack Obama.  He wrote that he did not vote for Senator Obama because he promised to bring change or hope, or because he would be the first African-American president.  He voted for Obama because he, of all the other candidates, best represented the teachings of Jesus.

            When Charles Honey, religion editor for the Grand Rapids Press, interviewed Dobson about his year of living as Jesus would have lived, the resulting feature was carried by newspapers all over the country and elicited hundreds of responses, most of which were critical.  Evidently, living like Jesus is controversial.  However, the controversy was not with those outside the church, but with "Bible-believing" Christians who were offended by the revelation of his drinking and by the fact that that Dobson voted for a pro-choice presidential candidate. 

            Does West Michigan have the second greatest well-being in the country because it's such a religious place?  I wonder if religion can sometimes be more of an impediment to health and wholeness than an encourager.  When faith leads us to become biased, unloving, prejudiced, close-minded, and judgmental, the result is never shalom. 

            From June 3-6 the 42nd session of the West Michigan Annual Conference took place at Calvin College in Grand Rapids.  We were inspired through worship, giving, workshops, a mission fair, and the ordination service.  Our plenaries revolved around how congregations are called to respond to Jesus' primary teachings concerning our treatment of the poor, the homeless, the hopeless, and the helpless in our local communities and around the world.  We also voted on significant legislative items that have the potential to impact the future of our conference for years to come.  We had the opportunity to live like Jesus lived or be driven by our own agendas and personal preferences.

            Despite differences of opinion, we engaged in respectful dialogue.  We listened carefully, honored those who disagreed, and did not attribute false motives to others.  Rules, regulations, and the temptation to become enslaved to budgets did not blind us to the possibilities for ministry.  We became living, breathing embodiments of compassion, caring, health, and wholeness.  In short, we allowed Jesus to be present at annual conference, sit beside us, and inform our decisions.  We lived in a Jesus world at annual conference.

            The most important question, however, is this: when we leave annual conference (or when we leave our churches after Sunday worship, for that matter), can we create a Jesus world for all people?   Can we pull it off?  Most of us don't have time to read the gospels through every week, we can't grow a megabeard like Ed Dobson, and we are not able to eat kosher for a year.  But, as Dobson discovered, spiritual disciplines are simply tools to transform our hearts.

            In the midst of increasing polarization, egged on by talk radio, cable TV, and politicians, where radical rhetoric increases ratings by presenting only 2 diametrically opposed opinions on any given topic, where is the voice of the church?  Can we make a commitment to promote a Jesus world where we love our enemies, practice shalom, and reach out to the very least of God's children?  Will we continually ask ourselves, "How will the teachings of Jesus impact my words, actions, and decision-making today?"

            If we could only trade our Norman Rockwell world for a Jesus world, not only would our own hearts be transformed, but our families, neighborhoods, churches, communities, and world would be transformed as well.  When that happens, maybe we'll catch up to and even surpass Boulder as having the greatest health and well-being in the country. 

            Not that Jesus was competitive.  I'm still trying to live like Jesus myself.

Blessings, Laurie

Dear Friends,

            I was aghast myself, and I'm supposed to be in the grace business!  The headlines around the country said it all.  "Worst Call Ever;" Nobody's Perfect;" "Perfect Crime;" "Robbed;" "Picture Perfect, Umpire's Not."  Last Wednesday Armando Galarraga was pitching a perfect game for the Detroit Tigers.  It was the 9th inning with only one out to go. 

            Pitching a perfect game (no hits, no errors, no walks) is one of rarest feats in baseball.  Only 20 perfect games have been pitched in major league baseball history, the first two occurring in 1880.  With 2,430 baseball games played in a major league season today, upwards of 300,000 games have been played in the last 130 years.  Only 20 pitchers have ever been able to say that they fulfilled Jesus' command in Matthew 5:48, "Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect."   

            The 27th batter on Wednesday was Cleveland Indian shortstop Jason Donald, who hit a grounder to first baseman Miguel Cabrera.  Cabrera threw the ball to Galarraga, who was covering first base.  Umpire Jim Joyce called Donald safe, when, in fact, he was clearly out.  It was simply a mistake, just like the mistakes that you and I make every day.  Unfortunately for Jim Joyce, a highly respected veteran umpire, this mistake cost Galarraga his place in history. 

            I couldn't believe it when I saw the replay.  Galarraga pitched a perfect game! Yet because major league baseball does not permit instant replay to be used for situations like this, the decision could not be reviewed and reversed.  This would have been the first perfect game in Detroit Tiger history, made all the more amazing by the fact that Armando Galarraga had a lifetime record of only 20-18, was with the Triple A Toledo Mud Hens team a few weeks ago, and threw the fewest pitches in a perfect game in over 100 years.

            Don't let anyone ever talk you into believing that God only shows up in church among people of faith.   Last week, the Holy Spirit moved in a powerful way in the aftermath of this imperfect "perfect" game.

• Consider the reaction of Armando Garallaga, the pitcher.
• You'd think he would have been furious. Instead, Garallaga said, "I had started to celebrate. But then I looked at him. I thought, 'O.K.' I thought, 'I can smile or punch this guy." He smiled.
• Each one of us has been treated unfairly or victimized at one time or another. We know what it feels like to be denied our just reward. How do you think you would have responded if you were Galarraga?
• Consider the reaction of Jim Joyce, the umpire.
• Joyce knew that he blew the most significant play of his life. He was obviously shaken, humbled, and devastated. In the umpires room after the game, Joyce said, "Nothing like this has ever happened to me, and I don't know what to say..." "This isn't just a call - this is a history call, and I kicked the crap out of it..." "I took a perfect game away from that kid who worked his butt off all night..."
• After Joyce summoned Galarraga to the umpires room so that he could apologize to the pitcher, Galarraga said, "He really feels bad - probably more bad than me. But nobody's perfect. I give a lot of credit to that because he needed to talk to me and say, 'I'm sorry.' I gave him a couple of hugs. There's going to be a couple more. I hope so."
• Each one of us has made horrendous mistakes during the course of our life. Fortunately, most of those mistakes were not life-threatening, life-altering for us or others, or had long-lasting consequences. However, many of us do find it excruciatingly difficult to admit our mistakes. Joyce was willing to own up to his failure and ask for forgiveness. How do you think you would have responded if you had been Joyce?
• Consider the reaction of Bud Selig, the commissioner of baseball.
• Knowing that baseball rules do not currently allow for instant replay to overrule the umpire in this case, numerous voices from the baseball community asked Selig to exercise his authority to declare Galarraga's masterpiece a perfect game and get it in the history books. Although Selig said that the outcome was unjust and that he will "examine our umpiring system, the expanded use of instant replay and other features," he did not agree to reverse the call.
• Would you have been bold enough to realize that something more important is going on here than rules and lead with your heart by making an exception?

            Armando Galarraga's almost perfect game provides a wonderful example of class, sportsmanship, and integrity.  Why did Galarraga smile instead of punch?  Why did he take the lineup card out for the Tigers game the next day, give it to umpire Joyce, and shake hands with him?  Why was he able to so easily forgive Jim Joyce and move on?  Galarraga, who is from Venezuela, said that his father set an example for him.  "The credit goes to my dad.  I'm a calm person and he's a calm person.  He always shows me the real truth.  It's life."

            Eugene Peterson paraphrases Matthew 5:48 in The Message, "In a word, what I'm saying is, Grow up. You're kingdom subjects.  Now live like it.  Live out your God-created identity.  Live generously and graciously toward others, the way God lives toward you."   In God's eyes, perfection is not throwing a perfect game.  Rather, perfection is living generously and graciously toward others, which is exactly what Galarraga did by forgiving Joyce.  

            John Wooden, one of the greatest coaches in sports history, who won 10 national basketball championships for UCLA, died last Friday at age 99.  John Wooden would have loved coaching Armando Galarraga because Wooden taught all of his players that winning and accolades mean nothing without character.  Wooden was well known for his pyramid of success, which he summarized in this way, "Success is peace of mind, which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you made the effort to do the best of which you are capable." (http://www.coachwooden.com/pyramidpdf.pdf)

            Here are 3 other Wooden quotes that came to mind in relation to Galarraga.

• "Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out." 
• "You can't live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you."

• "Make each day your masterpiece."

            Armando Galarraga, many people think that Wednesday, June 2, was a perfect day for you because you pitched a masterpiece of a baseball game.  But I suspect that day truly became perfect when you did something that Jim Joyce will never be able to repay you for.  You smiled at him.  You hugged him.  You forgave him.  You made the best out of a raw deal.

            Fame is fleeting anyway, Armando.  I know you must be terribly disappointed by the mistaken call, but you also have peace of mind because you know you did your best.  In the end, it's not going to matter to your children anyway whether your game was officially "perfect" or not.  What they will remember is that you led with your heart by responding graciously and generously toward Jim Joyce.  What they will remember is your character and compassion in the way you treat them and others every day.  What they will remember is that you make each day a masterpiece. 

            Now that's perfection!   John Wesley would be proud. 

Blessings, Laurie

Dear Friends,

• "Our church has no choice but to reinvent itself and be more entrepreneurial in reaching out to young families." I heard that statement at a Staff Parish Relations Committee meeting not too long ago.
• A church in Caledonia recently decided to change its name from New Life Church to .the point. The point? They wanted to distinguish themselves from many other churches that use "New Life" in their name, and they understood the importance of the image they wanted to convey. Jesus is the point.
• A lay person in one of our churches who works for IBM spent the last year training people in India to do his job. Now he's without a job.
• A district church made a strategic decision that the next person they needed to hire was not a CE director, youth leader, or parish visitor, but a graphic designer.

            What do these 4 stories have in common?  They remind us that the landscape of our world and church is rapidly changing.  You probably already know that.  But you may not know how dramatically that truth affects every local church.  Daniel Pink has written an amazing book called A Whole New Mind; Why Right Brainers Will Rule the Future.   Pink's thesis is that by understanding how our brain works, we can determine what abilities are necessary for organizations and individuals to function successfully in today's world. 

            Did you know that the average human brain has 100 billion cells?  Each brain cell links up with 10,000 of its comrades, which results in a network of a quadrillion connections that guides all aspects of human activity.  Our brains are also divided into 2 regions: left and right.  The left side of the brain is rational, logical, analytical, textual, literal, and functional, and specializes in computer-like reasoning and details.  By contrast, the right side of our brain is creative, artistic, non-linear, contextual, aesthetic, synthetic, wholistic, intuitive, and specializes in the big picture. 

            Although both sides of our brain work together as an integrated whole and play a role in all that we do, some people tend to be more left-brained than right-brained and vice versa.  In the 20th century, which was known as the Information Age, scientists were convinced that the left side of the brain was supreme.  Our culture valued knowledge workers such as accountants, computer analysts, attorneys, and engineers.

            According to Pink, however, the 21st century could very well be called the Conceptual Age.  The 21st century will be driven by the right side of our brain and is characterized by high concept and high touch. 

            Several factors play into this whole new world.  Because we live in an era of abundance in our country, we are discovering that young people today are more interested in beauty and design than utilitarianism.   Why did our children beg Gary and me to purchase Mac computers for them instead of PC's, even though they cost twice as much (ouch)?  Because they like the design and style of a Mac rather than a PC.  I'm too old to get it.

            At the same time, technology and workers in other countries are replacing left brain thinking jobs at an alarming rate.  Every year India produces 350,000 engineering graduates who are willing to work for a fraction of a U.S. worker's wage.  In addition, communication to most corners of the world today doesn't cost a penny.  The bottom line?  The most successful people and organizations in the 21st century will excel at right brain abilities: wholistic and big picture thinking, detecting patterns, creating beauty and meaning, problem solving, relational skills, and emotional intelligence.  These are precisely the skills that cannot be outsourced or replicated by computers. 

            A Whole New Mind is a must read for anyone who desires to understand today's world in light of how our brain works.  Pink describes the 6 right brain senses that are needed to complement left brain reasoning in order to develop a whole new mind. 

• Not just function but also design
• Not just argument but also story
• Not just focus but also symphony
• Not just logic but also empathy
• Not just seriousness but also play
• Not just accumulation but also meaning

            How do we exercise the mind of Christ in a whole new way in the church?   How do we understand the High Concept - High Touch age of the 21st century, not only in terms of more effectively communicating the good news, but in light of what we can contribute to our world's hunger for meaning, beauty, and fulfillment?  How might right brain thinking enhance our ministry in communications, pastoral care, fellowship, small groups, hospitality, spirituality, worship, staffing, and facilities?

1.         Are you cognizant of how people think and include both left and right brain people on all committees?  For example, Finance Committees need more than accountants and people who can read spreadsheets.  They also need people who understand the comprehensive nature of stewardship, communicate well, and are generous themselves. 

2.         Do you continually evaluate all of your church publications, including bulletins, newsletters, billboards, flyers, websites, and social network sites?  Are they attractive or merely functional?  We are foolish if we think it doesn't make a difference. 

3.         The most critical aspect of design in Gothic churches was for the spire to be the highest point in the town or city.  Are you aware that the most critical aspect of design in churches today may be your web site?  Young people especially decide what church to visit because of the website.  It's a prime entry point.  How much time, energy, and expertise are you spending on your website as well as social networking?  What image do you hope to convey to seekers?

4.         Stories have power.  Communicating through story helps people see a bigger picture, put things in context, and connect emotionally.  Can you discover new ways for church members to listen to each others' stories and the stories of those outside the doors of the church?  How are you telling the story of God at work in your congregation, your community, and in The United Methodist Church around the world? 

5.         Do you seek out leaders who are systems thinkers and can imagine and put ideas together in a whole new way?  The primary role of pastors and lay leaders is to see the big picture, create a vision, find and inspire champions, envision partnerships with the most unlikely groups, and bring congregations together to make it happen.  The foundation of spiritual leadership is the conviction that the symphonic whole of a church's ministry can far exceed its individual parts. 

6.         Do you focus on people rather than buildings, structures, or institutions?  Do you emphasize the training and equipping of all church members to be empathetic, feel what others feel, walk in the shoes of others, and let them know you care?  

7.         Does your church take time to play together, enjoy each other's company, laugh, and share joys and sorrows?  When was the last time you had a talent show, a family camp, or a picnic in the park?

8.         Do you understand that most people come to church because they are seeking an encounter with God through Jesus Christ that provides meaning and fulfillment in their professional, personal, and spiritual lives? 

            In the Conceptual Age of the 21th century, the jobs that will be most needed will require people skills, complex thinking, the ability to bring disparate groups to the same table, and, above all, servanthood.  The good news is that the Christian church is better positioned than any other organization in our world to foster, nurture, and create a whole new mind!   If we really believe that, we'll first have to create a whole new church.  

• It will be a church that tells the old, old story of Jesus and his love in new and compelling ways.
• It will be a church that has the same mind that was in Christ Jesus, who emptied himself, taking the form of a slave (Philippians 2).
• It will be a church that has a vision of the kingdom of God, where the lion and the wolf and the lamb shall feed together ... and shall not hurt or destroy on my holy mountain." (Isaiah 65:25)

            If you are willing, beware!  We can't outsource this new church to any other congregation or denomination.  Nor do we have to.  We have the resources, we have the connections, we have the will, we have the mind of Christ, and we have the heart.

You shall love the Lord with all your heart, and with all your soul,

And with all your mind, and with all your strength. (Mark 12:30)

            The West Michigan Annual Conference begins on Thursday morning.  Can we bring a whole new mind to our holy conferencing?  I believe we can.

Blessings, Laurie

P.S. You can purchase A Whole New Mind at the Cokesbury store at annual conference. 

Dear Friends,

            I've picked up hundreds of starfish in my life, but this one was different.  4 out of its 5 arms had been severed at different times over the course of the starfish's lifetime.  It's no wonder, considering the battering and bruising of the ocean tides.  Each of the broken arms was slowly growing back and was in different stages of regeneration. Because all of their vital organs are housed in their arms, a complete new starfish can grow from just one arm that is left, and it may take up to a year for the regeneration to be complete. 

            As the hectic month of May moves toward Memorial Day, and the end of the church program year is in sight, many local church pastors and staff feel like that broken and bruised starfish.  Sunday school and other classes are ending, committees are meeting for the last time before the summer, youth are confirmed, graduates are recognized, and annual conference is upon us.  At the same time we carefully evaluate the past year so that we can plan well for the program year to come.  When June arrives, pastors and lay leaders are often tired, on the verge of burn out, and in need of regeneration, which means "regrowth of lost or destroyed parts."  Their "voice," may be lost, their ears chewed off, their eyes glazed over, and their arms tied behind their backs by the relentless demands of ministry.           

            Having spent some time in retreat this month, I've discovered that the best opportunity to step back may be when we convince ourselves that we are indispensible and think we can least afford to be away.  Our United Methodist Book of Discipline even encourages pastors to spend yearly time in retreat (¶351.1). 

            The 2 primary definitions of "retreat" are "the process of going backward or receding from a position gained" or "the act of withdrawing for prayer, meditation, or study."   When I withdraw from normal activities and go on retreat, reflecting on the past is imperative in order to look ahead to the future in a healthy way.

            It's fascinating how many words that begin with the prefix "re" describe the benefits of a retreat.   "Re" implies doing something again or going back to something. 

• Relaxation: On a retreat we slow down, rest in Christ's love, and become attentive to God's presence through the beauty of the ordinary.
• Remembrance: By focusing on God and letting go of self, we reconnect with the old, old story of Jesus and his love for us and for the entire world.
• Review: We carefully revisit the past year: what worked and what didn't? How did our ministries serve to bring in God's kingdom?
• Repentance: How did I disappoint God and others this year? How should I make amends? How will next year be different?
• Release: Can I truly accept God's forgiveness and restoration, let go of my failures and mistakes, and move on with joy?
• Rebirth: How does Jesus want to be born again in me? Will I allow God to regenerate my broken and bruised parts?
• Reinvention: How is God prompting me to change and grow professionally and personally?
• Revitalization: How will I tap into the passion and fire of the Holy Spirit to be God's channel in renewing and reinvigorating God's church and transforming the world?

            In reading the gospel of Matthew several times during my retreat, I realize that the regeneration I seek in retreat cannot be separated from 2 key words, repentance and release.  Repentance is not only central to Matthew's witness but permeates the entire Bible.  The Greek verb for repent, metanoeo, means much more than just being sorry.  Repentance is a process of changing one's heart, turning around, moving toward God, and acting in new ways.

• "Bear fruit worthy of repentance."  (John the Baptist in Mt. 3:2 and 3:8)
• "Repent, for the kingdom of heaven has come near."  (Jesus in Mt. 4:17) 
• "So they went out and proclaimed that all should repent."  (Jesus sending out the 12 disciples in Mark 6:12)
• "Thus it is written, that the Messiah is to suffer and to rise from the dead on the third day, and that repentance and forgiveness of sins is to be proclaimed in his name to all nations, beginning from Jerusalem."  (Jesus in Luke 24:46-47)
• "While God has overlooked the times of human ignorance, now he commands all people everywhere to repent."  (Paul in Acts 17:30)
• "Remember then from what you have fallen; repent, and do the works you did at first."  (Revelation 2:5)

            Part of my brokenness is my need for repentance.  I have disappointed God and others by my thoughts, words, and deeds.  For me self-examination without repentance is empty.  As I look at my broken starfish, I become very aware of the ways in which I have failed others over this past year.  Not only are my arms broken like those of the starfish, and not only have I been bruised this year, but others have been bruised because of me.  The review of my life that points out my sins, mistakes, and failures has also become a laboratory for learning and subsequent release, rebirth, and regeneration.

 "For me, losing a tennis match isn't failure, it's research."   Billie Jean King

"Mistakes are the portals of discovery." James Joyce

            Unlike the starfish, not all of the bruising and brokenness in human life is inevitable.  Despite difficult situations that are beyond our control and challenges that stretch us financially, professionally, relationally, and spiritually, God has given us the freedom to choose how we will deal with the reality of our life.  Regeneration occurs naturally and instinctively in starfish.  We humans, however, have to be intentional and deliberate in using sin, failure, discouragement, and heartache to release us from guilt and regret, turn us God-ward, strengthen our spirits, and remain focused on the hope that does not disappoint (Romans 5:5).  Local churches can benefit from that same intentionality as well. 

            During my retreat I spent time in prayer for all of our pastors and churches in transition at this time of year.  One of the most powerful and meaningful ways to conclude ministry in a healthy fashion is to embrace repentance and release by using "An Order of Farewell to a Pastor," found in The United Methodist Book of Worship. 

Pastor:

            I thank you, the members and friends of --- United Methodist Church, for the love and support you have shown me while I have ministered among you.  I am grateful for the ways my leadership has been accepted.  I ask forgiveness for the mistakes I have made.  As I leave, I carry with me all that I have learned here.

Congregation:

            We receive your thankfulness, offer forgiveness, and accept that you now leave to minister elsewhere.  We express our gratitude for your time among us.  We ask your forgiveness for our mistakes.  Your influence on our faith and faithfulness will not leave us with your departure.

Pastor:

            I accept your gratitude and forgiveness, and I forgive you, trusting that our time together and our parting are pleasing to God.  I release you from turning to me and depending on me.  I encourage your continuing ministry here and will pray for you and your new pastor, -----.

Unison Prayer:

            Eternal God, whose steadfast love for us is from everlasting to everlasting, we give you thanks for cherished memories and commend one another into your care as we move in new directions.  Keep us one in your love forever, through Jesus Christ our Lord.  Amen.

            At the end of every retreat, I go home regenerated and revitalized for the ministry to which I have been called.  However, it's not usually because of any great new revelations from God.  Actually, what leads to new birth in my heart is the quiet acknowledgement that I am a lot harder on myself than God is.  Our God is tender, gentle, compassionate, understanding, and grace-filled.  Our God says, "Come to me, all you that are weary and are carrying heavy burdens, and I will give you rest." (Matthew 11:28)    

            What ultimately defines us is not our successes or failures.  Nor is it our starfish-like bruises and brokenness.  What defines us is that God has chosen to become incarnate in our world through Jesus Christ and so releases each one of us to bear fruit worthy of repentance.   Thanks be to God!

Blessings,

Laurie

P.S. May you enjoy times of renewal during this holiday weekend. 

Dear Friends,

            Are you waiting for the Spirit?  In the Christian year, yesterday was Ascension Sunday, and this coming Sunday is Pentecost.  In my experience, not many United Methodist churches acknowledge Ascension Sunday, yet the ascension of Jesus into heaven is foundational in our primary ecumenical Christian creeds: "He ascended into heaven and sitteth on the right hand of God the Father Almighty." (Apostles' Creed) 

            I went to church yesterday expecting to encounter the risen Christ.  Not only did I meet Jesus who ascended to heaven to be enthroned at the right hand of God, but I also met the 2 men in white robes who reminded me, "Laurie of Grand Rapids, why do you stand looking up towards heaven?" (Acts 1:1-11) 

            The United Methodist Church I attended was in another state.  It's a church I've visited before and, to be honest, I have not always been impressed by the worship service.  I still remember 9 years ago on Worldwide Communion Sunday when the worship service lasted 80 minutes and that was without a sermon!  The pastor used an ancient communion liturgy which was barely understandable, the hymns were slow as molasses, and it took nearly 40 minutes to serve small groups of people at the rail.  I was not eager to return, but the Spirit led me here again.

            As I parked my car and approached the sanctuary, I was greeted warmly by 3 successive people, all wearing name tags.  Inside the narthex I was given a bulletin and welcomed one more time.  The bi-weekly church newsletter was in the pew rack in front of me, and I was amazed at the wide range of programs and ministries offered at this fairly large UMC.  Prayer quilts; Galactic Blast VBS in June, which has already exceeded capacity in the younger ages; a vision for Small Group Ministry coming out of a strategic planning process; dementia support group; dedication of a new ramp for the church's Celebration Center; a Stephen Ministry training class: all evidence of a vital, healthy church living out the morning Scripture, "You will be my witnesses ... to the ends of the earth."  (Acts 1:8)

            It's inevitable.  Whenever I worship in a United Methodist Church, I feel comfortable because I believe in the Connection.  No matter where I am in the world - no matter the worship style - no matter who is sitting in the pews - I am home.  The worship service yesterday was compelling, transformative, and filled with spiritual depth.

• The organist made me want to sing because of her lively, passionate playing.
• The handbell choir and women's ensemble were joyful and enthusiastic.
• The sacrament of baptism was oh-so-sweet, with a 2 year old boy refusing to leave his mother's arms as he was baptized.
• The prayer of confession touched my heart because it not only reminded me of what season we are in, but it convicted me of my own impatience.

            Lord, we are "What's next?" people.  We want to know what we are supposed to do.  We journeyed through the Lenten Season, stood at the foot of the cross, witnessed Jesus' resurrection and his appearances to his disciples in an upper room and on the lakeshore.  Now in this day we are called to wait.  That's hard for us to do.  We want to jump into some kind of action.  Calm our hearts and help us to wait for the Spirit.  Forgive our impatience and our lack of faith.  We place our trust in your redeeming love."

• A lay woman wearing a baseball uniform engaged the children in dialogue about what kind of uniform a Christian should wear, which reminded me of Colossians 3:12, "As God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience."
• For a mission moment, the chair of the Scholarship Committee testified to the lives that have been changed because of the substantial scholarships the church provides to seminary students from around the country.  A second career person graduated last week from a United Methodist seminary and witnessed to the impact of his scholarship, "You are a part of my graduation from a UM seminary.  You were there every step of the way because of your kindness and generosity.  I beg you to continue your support because of the ripple effect you generate.  Thank you for being the hands and feet of Christ."  Wow!
• The lead pastor encouraged us in his sermon not to cling to the past when God pushes us forward.  Rather fix our eyes solely on heaven, God calls us to wait to receive the power of the Holy Spirit, then turn outward and become a witness.
• After worship Stephen ministers were stationed in strategic places, indentifying visitors, thanking people for coming to worship, and sending us forth with a smile.

            So much to savor, ponder, chew, and reflect upon.  Yesterday's worship service was a precious gift of God.  Walking back to my car, I said to myself, "People genuinely care at this church, and that in itself is enough to persuade many people that this could be their church home, a place where they can live out their call to be disciples of Jesus Christ who transform the world."

            As I drove away, I saw an UMCOR disaster relief trailer sitting in the parking lot. I continued praising God and said, "Thank you, St. Andrew By-The-Sea United Methodist Church.  You're a different congregation  than you were 9 years ago.  You touched me deeply and gave me space to encounter God today.  As a "What's next?" person, you challenged me to calm my heart, be patient, and wait for the Spirit, but you also urged me not to fix my gaze solely heavenward.  You are surely God's witnesses to the ends of the earth."

• Could this be your church, too?
• Could your congregation be such a witness?
• Could a visitor say of your church, "You're a transformed congregation since the last time I visited --- years ago. The Holy Spirit has surely come upon you."
• Are you actively waiting to receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon your congregation again at Pentecost?
• How will you celebrate the birthday of the Church? Are you going to wear Holy Spirit red next Sunday as your uniform?
• Are you listening to the angels saying to you, "Jim, Judy .... of West Michigan, why do you stand looking up towards heaven? This Jesus, who has ascended to heaven, comes again whenever you become a vessel for Holy Spirit power, look around as well as up, and witness to the good news."
• When the time is right, will your waiting turn to action?

Blessings, Laurie

Dear Friends,

            One of our district pastors shared in his church's newsletter about recent health concerns that have been attributed to stress.  He wasn't seeking sympathy but rather attempted to draw his congregation into a deeper understanding of the connectedness of life and our ability to see the blessings that are all around us.

            I was moved by the courage of my colleague to lead with his heart and invite his church members to see beyond the preacher to the very human person that he is.  It reminded me of a meeting of the Grand Rapids District Superintendency Committee a week ago.  This elected group of lay and clergy persons functions like the Staff (Pastor) Parish Relations Committee in a local church.  We meet 4 times a year to talk about how things are going in the district and how I can grow in my ministry of leading, coaching, supervising, and serving the needs of pastors and churches.   

            Some members of the committee expressed the fact that few people know exactly what a district superintendent does.  Other than conduct annual church conferences, visit churches on Sunday morning, meet with SPRCs when churches are in conflict, or magically present a congregation with a new pastor, the superintendent is a mysterious figure who seems to be awfully busy doing something.      

            So here goes my version of "A Week in the Life of a DS."

Monday, May 3

"Grant me daily the grace of gratitude, to be thankful for all my many gifts, and so be freed from artificial needs, that I might lead a joyful, simple life."

Edward Hays, A Book of Wonders

• This is a rare office day without wall to wall appointments, so I can catch up after a 3 day cabinet meeting the week before.  It's even possible to celebrate the birthdays of several staff members in the conference center.
• I am speaking at a Grand Rapids Metropolitan Ministries board meeting tomorrow night, so I'm hoping to find a chunk of time today to read and write. 
• A pastor drops by to schedule a church conference to purchase a building.  I contact pastors about personal, health, and church concerns and make phone calls to arrange introductory meetings of new pastors.  I have long conversations with a pastor's spouse and an SPRC chair. 
• I start backing up my computer to the conference server at 3:10 p.m. so that I can leave at 3:30 p.m. for the Superintendency meeting at Coopersville UMC. Our tech person says that my lap top bogs down the server because I have about 37,000 files (every conversation needs to be documented and every email saved).  Because it takes 30 minutes to back up today, and I have to detour the construction on I-196, I arrive at the meeting 15 minutes late.  Not good.
• In the early evening Gary and I take a long walk on a gorgeous spring night - my Sabbath time.  I finish my day by finding that chunk of time to work on the Metro presentation. 

Tuesday, May 4

"Be strong and of good courage, and act.

Do not be afraid or dismayed, for the Lord God, my God, is with you."

I Chronicles 28:20 (David to Solomon about building the temple)

• My morning is taken up with a meeting with a pastor, a 2 hour meeting of the Africa University Task force, and a lunch meeting with a retired clergy. 
• In the afternoon, I glance at the huge pile of papers on my desk that has accumulated since Christmas.   Knowing that I won't have time to sort through any of it until after annual conference, I look away with disgust and start returning phone calls.
• At the Metro Ministry board meeting I speak about images of the city.  Our new collaborative partnership, Communities of Shalom, and a big Rethink event in Grand Rapids on August 7 will no doubt be transformative for the city as well as our churches.
• I stop at a park on the way home to return 4 phone messages and watch the sun set. 

Wednesday, May 5

"It may be that when we no longer know which way to go we have come to our real journey.  The mind that is not baffled is not employed.  The impeded stream is the one that sings."  Wendell Berry, Collected Poems

• Every day as a superintendent brings new challenges as well as a gentle reminder that grace shows us a path, even when we are unsure of the way.
• After a breakfast meeting, I consult with several DS's for a few hours.  Then I dash off to Clark Retirement Community to participate in a meeting concerning the hiring of a new chaplain. 
• I return to the office to make phone calls and work on appointment-making details.  I'd be lost without Liz Bode, our amazingly efficient district administrative assistant. 
• 2 special joys complete my day: I send Mother's day cards and personal notes to my mother and mother-in-law.  Then I mow the lawn, which I absolutely love to do.  It satisfies my need for completion and control, which is not easy to find in the ministry of a superintendent! 

Thursday, May 6

"The breezes at dawn have secrets to tell you.  Don't go back to sleep."

Jalaluddin Rumi

• I am so intent on listening to God at dawn that I forget my cell phone, so I have to turn around and return home to get it. The caricature of DS's with cell phones and ear pieces permanently attached to them is true. Am I defined solely by my phone and computer?

• I meet with a pastor in the morning and attend the Conference Board of Pensions meeting in the afternoon. 
• In the late afternoon I meet with a pastor and spouse for dinner and then have an introductory meeting with the SPRC committee.  God is most certainly in the midst of our cabinet discernment, and I am amazed at the commitment of our pastors, their willingness to go where sent, and the graciousness of churches in welcoming and accepting their new pastor.

Friday, May 7

"Rest, Rest, Rest in God's love.  The only work you are required now to do is to give your most intense attention to God's still, small voice within."

17th century mystic Jeanne Guyon

• Friday is intended to be my day off.  However, I work on this essay, visit a retired pastor in the hospital, and have a dinner meeting to plan our Communities of Shalom Commissioning service in June. 
• It's difficult for me to stop, especially when the needs are great.  That's why I made a commitment in 2001 to take a retreat week away from Grand Rapids every year.  It is a time to slow down, reconnect with God, engage in self-examination, and focus on my spiritual life.  During the week that I will be gone, May 11-18, I will be praying constantly for you, and I humbly ask for your prayers for me as well.

Saturday, May 8

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." 

Maya Angelou

• I run in the 25 kilometer Riverbank Run in the morning (brrrrr!), meet with a pastor and SPRC committee in the afternoon, and catch up on emails and paperwork in the evening.

Sunday, May 9   

"Throw your heart over the fence and the rest will follow."

Norman Vincent Peale

• I attend worship at a district church and conduct a church conference afterwards to approve the salary for the new pastor who will arrive on July 1.
• In the afternoon I prepare for a Monday cabinet conference call and meet with a pastor and SPRC committee in the evening.

            It's been a full and rich week.  The work is never done, so I learn to find moments of sabbath in each day.  The issues that face superintendents are complex, the dilemmas are not easily resolved, and we can never make everyone happy.  I am honored, however, to work with pastors and lay people who are much more capable and faithful than I am.  Every day God whispers in my ear, "My grace is sufficient for you, for power is made perfect in weakness."  I Corinthians 12:9

            May your week be filled with grace as you lead with your heart. 

Blessings, Laurie